Perception

‘ A belief or opinion based on how things seem.’

How many of us have had an argument, defending our opinion, thinking a person-situation-action was right or wrong? It is a hilarious concept that causes so much dysfunction and many arguments. How can any of us be right or wrong? After all it’s all in how we perceive it. 

 

Is the answer perspective? Having perspective opens us to the possibility that everyone has a valid opinion depending on their own personal experience. We all experience life and situations differently. There can be no wrong! 

Having individual needs and mixing them with our life conditioning allows a lifestyle pattern to emerge. What works for one of us may not work for the other. If our conditioning tells us something is good or bad, then we react to the situation. If our reaction comes from having a ‘crappy day’ more arguments can arise. So where does our conditioning come from? It mostly comes from our parents, life experience and our social cultural exposure. Some of us will see a glass as half full, others as half empty. At any given time, we can change our empty glass to one that is overflowing. 

Adding acceptance into any lifestyle pattern offers us yet another perspective. Accepting each other for who we are, our quirky ways and all, is a beautiful thing. When we fully let go of limitations like judgement, ego and control we can then embrace authenticity. 

We are human beings full of thoughts, contradictions and emotions. We can all live with each other, as long as we understand that a different perception exists in any given situation. When we remember that each one of us is a bundle of needs, conditions and experiences, we can openly accept all rants and raves without any dysfunction and hostility.

If our needs in life are similar to another persons, relating to them becomes easy and friendships form. How long any friendship lasts can depend on what we have in common, what we learn, or what we teach each other. If we offer love and acceptance, then that friendship can be for life. If we offer conditions and judgement, it can lead to separation. 

We attract what we are. 

Acknowledging how we relate to ourselves, determines how we relate to others. If there is a healthy relationship within ourselves based on love and respect, then that is what we will offer to others. If we have an unhealthy relationship based on self judgement and control, that is what our friends will offer. 

Having awareness of ourselves and how we react is fantastically healthy. Our life is a reflection of our choices. Lets celebrate that concept and live with collective consciousness. 

On the other hand, your perception of me could be very different to my own. So, whether you get me or not depends on your relationship with yourself. It’s all in our perception. 

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